Hello there, thanks for joining me today. Today I’m talking about the 5 ’S’ for the best sex ever. OK so there are 5 ’S’ for you to get the best sex ever. The first S that I’ve got for you is about Slow. So to really, really slow down. Sometimes when we’re in sex it can be a kind of hurried affair and it can be like two rutting stags and it’s all very fast and furious and it’s just happening and it can kind of feel like if you’re feeling inside of yourself like nothing is happening at all and it can also sometimes feel like you spent longer in the shower afterwards than you actually did in the act of lovemaking. So the first I just want you to try – if you’ve watch one of my previous videos you might have done this before – but I want you first of all to run your hand down your arm and on a scale of 1 to 10 just ask yourself how that felt just doing that and you’ll probably think, well, it’s ok. Now try this one, try it absolutely, really slow and you’re just bringing your fingertips lightly down and you’ll start to feel, you’ll start to notice the sensation in your body is far more amplified and far more joyous and it’s a beautiful thing. Now just imagine that if you’re with your lover or lovers or on your own just imagine those senses slowing down allover your body how that’s going to feel for you and how that’s going to feel for your partner. The first S for the best sex ever is to slow down.
The next one I’ve got for you is what I call scream. Now I could have said shout and I could have said breathe, but I want to say scream. Because actually in our sex we can be conditioned that it’s not OK to make noise when we’re having sex and what happens is that we limit our experience. If you’re not making any noise at all then the experience of sex really stays inside of you and it doesn’t feel that it is being expanded and experienced through your whole body and it can be very repressed and this can also be one of the reasons for premature ejaculation is around the shame of being sexual and not being able to express the sensations in your body because actually it’s not ok, the neighbours might hear and what might people think. Now one of the things I say is whatever is happening in your sex is happening in your day-to-day life – think about that for a minute – whatever is happening in your sex is happening in your day-to-day life. If you’re repressing yourself in your sex, if you’re repressing yourself by keeping it inside in some way you’re also replicating that in your day to day life as well, you’re going to be holding yourself back and not being free, flying and ecstatic. I could say make some noise for the best sex ever but I would say, my advice, scream is absolutely the best one. So the first one is to slow down and the second one is to scream.
The third S for the best sex ever is what I call savour. Now imagine you’ve gone into McDonald’s – you’ve had your big mac, your diet coke if you’re me, your fries and you’re eating it all down – 5 minutes it’s all over and you probably don’t remember having that meal. Now imagine you’re going to a michelin starred restaurant where it’s 12 courses and everything has been specially prepared, everything’s beautiful, white tablecloth, silver cutlery and each plate is like a work of art. As you’re eating it you kind of take in the visuals, take in the smell and there’s kind of that feeling inside of really savouring each mouthful and for me this is the same in your sex. If you’re with somebody you can choose if it’s going to be a McDonald’s meal that is as quick as anything and as I said earlier about slowing down, you don’t really notice it. Actually if you take your time and you savour – it doesn’t matter how long you spend having sex, it’s about the ability to really savour what’s in front of you, the person in front of you and to savour yourself and really feel it, really take it in, really experience it. So my third S for the best sex ever is to savour.
The fourth S that I’ve got for you to have your best sex ever is what I call sensual. So when we were doing this before about touching somebody, if you bring your hand down like this, you probably wouldn’t feel very much. But if you bring in your fingertips and really slow that down and you’re making some sound or screaming – screaming is good – you know like aaaah then what happens is the experience of that starts to get really amplified. So the more sensual you are in your touch, the more sensual you are, the more you’re going to feel more ecstatic sensations, the more you’re going to feel alive and the more you’re going to be like ‘oh my god’. So the more sensual you are the more you’re going to feel it in your body.
Fifth S that I’ve got for you is what I call stroke. Stroking is about being really gentle and maybe rhythmical but not sort of fast rubbing because yeah that’s good but it’s all over before it even started. So what I said earlier about savouring – so learn to gently stroke and be in the sensation.
So let’s recap: my 5 S’s for the best sex ever:
1) Slow down – really slow it down
2) Scream – really make those noises
3) Savour – really savour what’s going on for you, really taste it, really feel it
4) Sensual – be very sensual and very light
5) Stroke – really stroke yourself, really stroke the person you are with – and try and broaden that on the body, you don’t really need to just stroke the genitals, or just the nipples.
In doing these five things you can get into a state where your whole body feels like your cock. If you follow those techniques through you’ll start to feel shudders allover your body, you’ll start to feel tingling sensations and as you start to bring the heat of the sexual energy up you’re in for a very very good time.