Video Transcript:

So I want to talk about how gay porn and Tantra fit together. You might think that as Tantra is a spiritual practice, that porn has absolutely no place in Tantra at all and that it is kind of the seed of the devil and it’s evil and should be avoided at all costs. But I have a kind of different perspective because if you look at statistics for the amount of internet traffic, a fair percentage of it is porn. As humans with the internet we are very interested in porn and I think there is something about removing any shame and judgements we have about porn. And I want to talk about how porn actually might be able to help you in terms of Tantra – you might just have to follow me for a few minutes whilst I talk about that.

When I talk about porn I’m assuming that the actors involved are consenting to it, everyone doing it is consenting and that it’s ethical. Some of the porn stars I’ve spoken to absolutely love their job, they love performing and they love showing off, they love showing their ecstasy. When I talk about porn I’m assuming that all of those things are in place. Now let’s just ask: “what is gay porn actually designed to do?”. If you think about it and you’re watching, now what is it designed to do? The number one thing for me it’s designed to do: it’s designed to arouse. Porn is designed to arouse and to wake up your sexual energy in your body.

So what I’d like you to try next time that you’re watching some is, rather than – sometimes people just switch porn on and it’s it’s kind of crack one off, get to the finish line, job done and then you can move on with your day. I want you to try something different. One of things in Tantra for me is about consciousness, is about awareness and for me one of the first steps of consciousness and awareness is being present, being with what’s going on for you. So when you’re watching porn next time what I want you to do is lay off any physical stimulation for a while and I want you to allow yourself to really watch it and to really enjoy it and to watch the arousal in your body. If you’ve watched one of my earlier clips you’ll notice that one of my tips about best orgasm is to breath and to make sound. So as you’re watching this and becoming more aroused then allow yourself to go into that arousal more and to feel it in your body. With your breath what I want you to do is visualise that that arousal is building up like a cauldron through the whole of your body so that arousal is allover your body. Typically as men we have the idea that we must then get rid of that pressure, get rid of that arousal, get on with our day and come and game over. But actually one of the things I want to invite you to around living more ecstatically is to start keeping those arousal levels for longer periods of time. So for me you might start to choose to watch some porn, feel aroused, breath it in your body, you might even choose to stimulate yourself and self pleasure your cock and to enjoy those sensations through your body.

My invitation with this is to make a choice about not coming and to kind of live in that arousal state and observe what happens, see what happens. So try it out, let me know how you get on. I look forward to seeing how it goes. Thanks xxx