About Me

Born a minister’s son in the Deep South, I grew up in a rigidly religious environment, struggling against the strong social conditioning and problematic relationship templates that we as gay and queer men have inherited from society. At age 21, I myself became a trained minister, suppressing my true sexual identity and dividing myself into pieces on the inside. My innate eroticism led me through a labyrinth of self-deceit, a complicated double life, and at last, to a breaking point—a new beginning—that defined my own search for personal truth. Once I had left the ministry and stepped “out of the closet,” I painfully accepted that my journey toward wholeness and my authentic self was far from over. In fact, it had just begun.

Within the very wounds of rejection, fear, and self-loathing, I uncovered the medicine for my own internal healing. I believe that it is through our own pain that we as queers will transform ourselves, our communities, and our cultures at large.

I am a coach, a writer, an educator, and a podcast co-host, bringing eighteen years of combined experience in social anthropology, wellness coaching, spiritual counseling, sex and intimacy coaching, and personal development to my client and couples practice. I have also been a staffed practitioner for the Queer Couples Center in San Francisco. Additionally, I enjoy being a content creator, onsite coach for Himeros TV, which provides explicit content for queer men looking to find meaning in eroticism, strengthen erotic skills, and create a sense of loving, erotic, community with other men.